Dear Melissa,
I have a new boyfriend and we’ve been dating a couple of months. Up until now things have been great but we recently went away on a trip together and I’m seeing some things about him that I’m not particularly fond of. I notice he drinks too much and has some quirks about him that I think will cause problems in the long term. When I asked him about it he said he was only drinking so much because it was a vacation and that it’s not normal for him to be like that. I don’t know if I should overlook it and brush it off or end things now before I get too emotionally involved. What do I do?
-Unsure
Dear Unsure,
If you are already having doubts this early in the relationship, it is unlikely that things are going to make a big difference and get better. It is possible he just got a little crazy on vacation and if you’ve been dating a few months and haven’t seen this kind of behavior in him before then I might want to let that one slide. If the quirks are annoying you enough that they’re bothering you in your honeymoon phase, I can only imagine it might be something that is going to bother you more as the relationship develops. You need to be honest with yourself and ask if these are deal breakers or something you can overlook. Good luck!
Melissa
