Advice from Melissa: Is a free ride worth a friendship?
I have a friend who doesn’t drive and has been riding the town bus for as long as I can recall. With the weather turning cold I have started offering her rides when she needs them and it has now become the norm for us. My problem is she never offers gas money or a coffee or any showing of appreciation and it’s starting to make me bitter. Should I say something to her?
I can understand your point and frustration with what seems like a freeloading friend. Perhaps she doesn’t even realize that she is being rude since you are the one who offered the rides to begin with. Have you tried asking her to help pitch in a few bucks here and there or are you just waiting for her to offer? You can’t let yourself get bitter if you haven’t subtly let her know you could use the help. Some people just don’t realize and if you keep offering the rides, chances are she’s going to keep accepting them and not think twice about it. Talk to her, you have lots of time together alone on those rides so it won’t be a public conversation in front of other people. Ignorance is bliss, and apparently a free ride. Don’t let it ruin your friendship.
Girl Talk began in 2012 as a telltale horror story of the city’s most epic dating disasters and has evolved into a column about love, life experiences and growing up. Melissa also has a weekly Girl Talk TV segment on PA Live, WBRE, and a radio segment every Wednesday on 98.5 KRZ.