Dear Melissa,
How can I let my boyfriend know that I want to get more adventurous in the bedroom without hurting his feelings or having him think I am not happy with our current sex life?
Lukewarm lover
Dear Spice Girl,
Keeping things fun in bed is the best way to make your relationship interesting. You can try approaching it subtly by hosting or attending a sex toy party. You can show him the catalog with some things you picked out and ask him what he thinks. He might pick out a few things too! It’s possible he wants to turn up the heat but is afraid you don’t. You can also try taking command and just adding in some new activities yourself. Guys find confidence sexy and if you are the one to introduce the changes to your normal routine, whether subtly or in a big way, you might find your guy super turned on and into it. Letting him know that you are attracted to him and open to exploring your sexual prowess together will be a huge turn on. I say just go for it!
Good luck!!
Melissa
