Advice and well wishes for the Mr. and Mrs. are cards that are normally passed out at most weddings and bridal showers. Most brides will receive the standard advice of “don’t go to bed mad” or “be patient and kind.” While these are all lovely sentiments, the reality of marriage is much more than quotes about love and sweet embraces. I find the happiest couples I know are the ones who can laugh together. With that being said, here is some real life advice for couples who have decided to tie to knot.
Have realistic expectations of each other. If she couldn’t cook or he was too lazy to take out the trash before you said your vows, chances are, you will still come home to burnt dinners and overflowing trash bags once the reality of life sets in. Eat the dinners anyway, they will get better. If they don’t, try taking a cooking class together. It might be a fun and unconventional night out that will help you both. If trash day is looming, write a sticky note (or several strategically placed ones) with a cute reminder. Silliness goes a long way. If that doesn’t work, try shooting him with a Nerf gun to motivate him into action. Keeping things fun and silly prevents that nagging feeling.
Keep your sex life hot and interesting. Once life starts happening it’s easy for your physical relationship to be put on the back burner. Kids, jobs and other commitments might leave you too tired to perform the mattress mambo, but make sure you are making time to keep dancing anyway. It is a great way to relieve stress, maintain a closeness with your partner and if done often enough, sex can be a form of exercise that is way more fun than walking on a treadmill at the gym for half an hour. Have fun with it, try new things and introduce toys and games to the bedroom or wherever you are when the mood strikes you. Don’t be afraid to think outside of the box and get creative. Make sure to touch each other. Not just at sex time, but a little ass grab on the escalator at the mall. Letting your partner know those jeans are working for him lets him know you notice, appreciate and feel the flame.
Date. Specifically, each other. At least once a month set aside one distraction free night to go do something fun. It will give you something to look forward to and if you take turns planning it and stay open to your partner’s ideas, you might find fun in the unfamiliar. Maybe he will like going to a wine and paint night or maybe she would find her talent really shines at the archery range. Involving yourself in your mate’s interests is a great way to keep your relationship strong and steady.
Appreciate the little things. Say thank you when they make the bed or change the toilet paper roll. Always remind each other why you decided to get married in the first place and just take it a day at a time. Remember to laugh, smile and be each other’s biggest cheerleaders. You are a team from this day forward until death do you part, make it a journey to remember.
Girl Talk began in 2012 as a telltale horror story of the city’s most epic dating disasters and has evolved into a column about love, life experiences and growing up. Melissa also has a weekly Girl Talk TV segment on PA Live, WBRE, and a radio segment every Wednesday on 98.5 KRZ.