Advice from Melissa: My friends hate my beau, what do I do?
I have been in a relationship for about 6 months with a guy I am head over heels for. The only problem is that none of my friends like him. I am really upset that they have all passed judgment and just don’t see the side of him that I see. What do I do and how can I get them to like him?
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Dear Stuck in the middle,
Have you tried talking to them about the reasons they do not approve of him? Often we always go to our friends as a safety net when we are having problems as a friendly, trustworthy face to vent to but rarely tell them about the good times. The only side of him they may know is the side that treats you poorly. Has he made an effort to spend time with them or let them get to know him? If he knows they are not in his fan club, he may act distant or confrontational with them because they have already passed judgment. In the end, your friends want what is best for you and they can sometimes see things that you cannot. There is a reason for the term “blinded by love”. Talk to them and see their logic and try planning things that will force everyone to interact. Maybe they just need time to warm up to him if their reasons for rejection are not valid in your eyes.
Girl Talk began in 2012 as a telltale horror story of the city’s most epic dating disasters and has evolved into a column about love, life experiences and growing up. Melissa also has a weekly Girl Talk TV segment on PA Live, WBRE, and a radio segment every Wednesday on 98.5 KRZ.