I have to admit that as a child I never dreamed of a “perfect wedding day.” It was never on my radar, and I’m a little annoyed that young Brigid didn’t have the foresight because present Brigid could use some inspiration.
A few people have asked me about things like dresses and what I always imagined I saw myself wearing down the aisle. I always scramble and say I’m keeping an open mind for those types of things. It sounds like a solid answer and it works to convince those people that I have this whole thing planned out.
To be honest, we have our perfect reception venue, and I couldn’t be happier about that. The next big challenge to overcome is finding a ceremony space. Mikey and I have decided we wouldn’t have a Catholic ceremony, and that leaves out a lot of contenders for where we can get married. I know what you’re thinking — what about an outdoor ceremony? There are so many pretty parks, etc. — and I will politely refer you to our earlier conversation about obsessing over what I would do if it rained on my wedding day.
And there is obviously the argument, which we have both heard before, about just biting the bullet and having a Catholic ceremony, because it’s the “traditional” thing to do.
I hear you, I really do. And hey, I’m not knocking people who do have traditional ceremonies, they are absolutely beautiful, they just don’t fit the needs of our wedding.
This also raises the added effort of writing a ceremony and having an endless library of music to choose, and while this seems a daunting task, it means we can fully customize our ceremony to reflect our relationship and frame the marriage we envision for ourselves. (And it means I can annoy Mikey enough until he lets me use Buddy Holly and The Beatles music in the ceremony.)
So, where do we go from here? Our reception space does have a ceremony room, but it’s smaller than the reception space and I worry that it won’t fit everyone comfortably.
We have toyed around with the idea of renting spaces in local colleges, museums, etc., but so far no such luck. Much like reception space hunting, I’m waiting for my “picture perfect” venue, and I’m hoping it feels as right when I walk in as it did when we booked the reception. Hopefully then writing the ceremony and picking the music will all fall into place perfectly and Mikey and I can get the perfectly modern wedding we have only recently dreamed of.
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Editor’s note: Brigid Edmunds is the digital coordinator for Weekender and Times Leader. When she’s not working she’s busy planning her upcoming nuptials to fiance Mikey Lawrence.
If you’re a bride-to-be or recently got married and would like to share ideas, horror stories, funny anecdotes, or anything in between, email her at [email protected]
Her column, The Prenuptial Project, will run twice a month in Weekender.