Advice from Melissa: Nothing’s really wrong, I’m just not into it
I think my relationship has outlived its shelf life. I am no longer happy but there is no real reason to break up. No one cheated, we are not fighting and he hasn’t done anything to deserve it. Should I just keep waiting for the spark to reignite?
In the dark
Hello Darkness, my old friend,
Sorry, I couldn’t resist … anyways, not being happy is a real reason to end a relationship. Things do not always need to come to a bitter end, they can simply just end. If you know in your heart that it is over and are just waiting for the “next big fight” to cut things off, then be honest with yourself and get out now. Maybe ending things on a good note could leave the door open for the relationship to rekindle at a later time if that is what you want, but no one has a gun to your head telling you that you need to stay. On the other hand, sparks do not just reignite on their own, relationships (and fire) take work. If you’re not willing to do it, then it’s time to punch out and realize that your shift is over.
Girl Talk began in 2012 as a telltale horror story of the city’s most epic dating disasters and has evolved into a column about love, life experiences and growing up. Melissa also has a weekly Girl Talk TV segment on PA Live, WBRE, and a radio segment every Wednesday on 98.5 KRZ.