By the time we reach our 30s, the majority of people have built up a complex dating past. We are scarred, have baggage and have hopefully learned a lesson or two along the way. When discussing the mistakes of our past, are we honest about how things turned out?
Is every ex a psycho?
I have dated my fair share of men who have openly discussed their psychotic ex girlfriends. When giving the highlight reel of the low points of their past, they have cast these women in the muddiest situations by telling horror stories of the atrocities they have endured. It has caused me to pity their situations and hate these girls whom I had never even met.
We as women are guilty of judging without knowing. How many psycho ex stories have you heard and more importantly, how many have you played a starring role in?
Stories get twisted and no one wants to be the bad guy. It is easy to turn your ex into a fire breathing dragon when in the big picture, maybe their actions were justified. It is said every action has an equal and opposite reaction and there are always two sides to every story, but when you are telling an ex horror story, have you ever thought about how they can tell the same situation’s story?
I had to find out.
I’m friends with a couple who recently parted ways. She told me he was too controlling and he told me she was too wild. Knowing them both, I could easily see how each one was right about the other, but if I were an unknowing third party hearing only one side, my opinion of the other party could have easily turned negative based on one story.
So next time you tell a story or hear one about a psycho ex, consider both sides. While some actions are completely unjustifiable, others may be how you would find yourself reacting to the situation. Be careful who you’re judging, we are all in glass houses and are likely all someone’s psycho ex.
Girl Talk began in 2012 as a telltale horror story of the city’s most epic dating disasters and has evolved into a column about love, life experiences and growing up. Melissa also has a weekly Girl Talk TV segment on PA Live and WBRE.