Girl Talk: What’s the best relationship advice you’ve ever received?
Benjamin Franklin once said “never ruin an apology with an excuse.” How can it be that one of the founding fathers of our country, who lived 300 years ago, could give such sound advice that still resonates so true in relationships today?
I suppose it is true that love is a constant, unchanging force that has stood the test of time. There is never a shortage of relationship advice if you ask, but is it always as good as Mr. Franklin’s?
What is the best relationship advice you have ever received?
I have been writing for Weekender for nearly five years. Through this column, I have given my fair share of advice and quips on relationships, but is any of it any good? I would like to think so. In my 32 trips around the sun, I have learned a lesson or two about love and life. The best advice I have ever received came from my grandmother. One day as we were sitting at her kitchen table eating lunch she said to me, “make sure to end the day happy, it’s the secret to a good life.”
She then continued, “from the moment you roll out of bed, some days just seem like the world is working against you. Crying yourself to sleep at night never solved one problem, it only sets up the tone for the next day. When you are in a relationship, it is your goal to make sure your significant other ends their day with a smile. Be their silver lining.”
The last sentence struck me like a train. As I sat there quietly enjoying the remainder of my Reuben sandwich, I thought about my present relationship. Some days I am the silver lining and other days I am the storm cloud. Not to say I was the instigator to every fight nor was I the cause of every smile that occurs in our relationship, but was I doing my best to make things happy and good between us? I really had to take a step back.
Relationships are give and take. Some days you feel like you give so much of yourself that there is nothing left, but other days you might not even realize how much of that other person you have taken. Keep things in perspective and let your partner know how much you appreciate them. Someone once said that every day might not be good, but there is good in every day. If you see that your partner had a rough day, try doing something nice for them. It doesn’t need to be a fancy dinner or expensive date night, just telling them they are loved might be the best or only good part of their day.
A simple “I love you” goes a long way.
So boyfriend, if you are reading this (and you better be!) you are loved and appreciated. You are the highlight to many of my days even though sometimes I can be a bear to be with (there I admit it in print). I thank you for the constant good you add to my life. I thank you for the smiles, laughter and love.
Take a minute to tell the significant person in your life what they mean to you. Give them a smile because chances are they will give one back to you. Make sure to end the day happy; as my grandmother says, it’s the secret to a good life.
Girl Talk began in 2012 as a telltale horror story of the city’s most epic dating disasters and has evolved into a column about love, life experiences and growing up. Melissa also has a weekly Girl Talk TV segment on PA Live and WBRE.