Dear Melissa,
This is the first Thanksgiving with my new boyfriend. My plan was to spend a nice quiet holiday at home, alone, in my comfortable clothes. When he heard that I would be spending the holidays alone he asked his mother if I could come to dinner without talking to me first. She said yes, but I’ve never met his family before. I get very nervous around new people and was really looking forward to the day at home by myself. His heart was in the right place asking, but now I feel bad turning down the invitation. What do I do?
Table for one
Dear table for one,
Talk to your boyfriend about the reasons you were looking forward to spending the holiday alone. It was very sweet of him and his family to want to include you in their festivities, but perhaps he doesn’t understand that your nerves would ruin the meal. Perhaps you can try joining for dessert or if you were really looking to just stay in for the day, explain that to him. We are all human and need the occasional day off. I’m sure he’d understand without getting hurt.
Melissa
