Advice from Melissa: No puppy love here
My boyfriend brought home a new dog that he rescued from a shelter as a surprise to me. We really were not ready for a dog in our home with our schedules and life and I’m frustrated with him for bringing home such a big commitment without talking to me about it first. When I tried to tell him, he got mad at me for ruining his surprise. How do I communicate this better?
New Dog Mom
A dog is a very big and very time consuming commitment. It is definitely something that he should have discussed with you first. He could have done this while still keeping it a surprise. There could have been a prior hypothetical talk so he could feel out how you felt about the situation. You should be able to voice your frustrations to him without it causing a fight. It isn’t that you don’t love and appreciate the surprise, it is just a big life-changing one that takes some prep. Just let him know that you appreciate the thought but in the future these are things that need to be discussed. He can always surprise you with flowers, at least you don’t need to be home to take them out to pee!
Girl Talk began in 2012 as a telltale horror story of the city’s most epic dating disasters and has evolved into a column about love, life experiences and growing up. Melissa also has a weekly Girl Talk TV segment on PA Live, WBRE, and a radio segment every Wednesday on 98.5 KRZ.