Girl Talk: C’mon America, we need a little respect from our candidates
One of the core foundations of a relationship is respect. In a relationship, people who respect and value each other are the couples who generally are successful. One of the best ways to show this, is to respect yourself, not only with your actions, but with your words.
Our country is currently in an emotionally abusive relationship devoid of any respect. If you wouldn’t stand for it with your mate, why would you stand for it with your leader?
Put-downs, insults and unreasonable accusations are all forms of emotional abuse. They do not belong in any relationship. If your partner calls you ugly, fat, stupid or unfit, it hurts. If your partner embarrasses you, whether in public or in private, it hurts.
I am a woman. I am a voter. I am hurt — by both presidential candidates?
When did assaulting each other’s character become the basis of what makes or breaks a good leader.
This weekend was full of talk about locker room banter. What guys say to each other about a girl is supposed to be OK because it is harmless “guy talk.” If it is just “boys being boys” shouldn’t we want our boys to be better? Shouldn’t we want the person who we are in a relationship with to have more respect for us? I know I do.
Enough with the guy talk, it is time for some serious Girl Talk.
It is scary to live in a world where we have to openly discuss rape culture. It all stems from lack of respect. Saturday, a meme came across my Facebook feed saying that women shouldn’t be offended by recent “locker room talk” because they read “50 Shades of Grey” and are indulging in that mentality too.
Are we living a world where we cannot separate fact from fiction? Where did the respect go? For those of you sharing this meme, the book contained no locker room talk and all acts within were consensual. There was even a signed form of consent so your argument is invalid.
Let me spell it out, just because a woman talks about sex, reads about sex, thinks about sex or is having sex, that does not mean it is OK to act like you are entitled to have sex with her. Since the days of the flappers and bra burners, we have been fighting for our right to have sexual freedoms, but does being sexually free mean you are opening yourself up for the possibility of being raped? Are we asking for it? No.
We are asking for respect. I want every relationship I am in to be built on respect. I want to feel safe in my environment. Before you share your next meme, ask yourself how it reflects upon who you are and what your values show.
Now, more than ever, we as women — and humans — need to stand together to repair and build a culture of respect, not of insults and belittling.
Let’s show those who are running for office we want them to hold themselves to higher standards.
Girl Talk began in 2012 as a telltale horror story of the city’s most epic dating disasters and has evolved into a column about love, life experiences and growing up. Melissa also has a weekly Girl Talk TV segment on PA Live, WBRE, and a radio segment every Wednesday on 98.5 KRZ.