Advice from Melissa: He wants a prenup;that makes me feel like a gold digger
I am recently engaged and my fiancé wants me to sign a prenuptial agreement. I do not come from a financially well-off family and this is all very new to me. I am a littler hurt because it makes me feel like a gold digger and I feel like he is already preparing for a divorce. Am I crazy to feel this way? Should I call things off?
First and foremost, take a deep breath. You are over reacting a little bit. A prenuptial agreement is not like pre-signing your divorce papers; it is merely a precaution. He isn’t planning for a divorce but if one were to happen, it’s smart to protect yourself. No one plans for a house fire, but they still have extinguishers just in case, this is his “just in case.” He may never have to use it. He doesn’t see you as a gold digger, otherwise he would not have asked you to marry him. Relax and let your guard down, this is supposed to be a happy time. It is really important that you communicate your concerns with him and talk it through. You got this!
Girl Talk began in 2012 as a telltale horror story of the city’s most epic dating disasters and has evolved into a column about love, life experiences and growing up. Melissa also has a weekly Girl Talk TV segment on PA Live, WBRE, and a radio segment every Wednesday on 98.5 KRZ.