Advice from Melissa: The sparks just aren’t there
My friends have recently set me up with a mutual friend and we have started dating. We get along great and have a lot in common, but I am not physically attracted to him at all. I really enjoy our time together, but am I shallow for not wanting to take it further? Does there have to be a spark for love to happen?
You aren’t shallow. In fact, you are normal. You do not have to feel attraction to everyone you meet and if you really like hanging out with this guy and truly have a lot in common, then there is nothing wrong with just being friends. It sounds like you have already friend-zoned him, even if it is unintentional. Just be honest with him and let him know you love his company, but romantically it’s just not happening for you. Chances are, if you’re not feeling sparks, he isn’t either and you’re both just too polite to say anything.
Girl Talk began in 2012 as a telltale horror story of the city’s most epic dating disasters and has evolved into a column about love, life experiences and growing up. Melissa also has a weekly Girl Talk TV segment on PA Live, WBRE, and a radio segment every Wednesday on 98.5 KRZ.