Girl Talk: Would you make a sex tape? Here are some things to think about before you record.
Everyone secretly loves a peep show. It seems like it has become a daily occurrence that celebrities are having sex videos and naked photos leaked. The public can’t seem to get enough of the taboo, behind-the-sheets look at celebrity sex tapes. In some cases, it has launched careers while in others, it has ruined them. What can making a sex tape do for the everyday girl? We are living out our sexual fantasies via snap chat and sexting, but is it really worth it to make a sex tape?
What positive things could come from making a sex tape? As a couple, it could help reignite the passion that may have fizzled. It adds new levels of excitement and drama to a possibly dull bedroom experience. You could really step up your relationship game by introducing role play and becoming a starlet in your own film. Most sports coaches watch films of previous games to give them an edge on the next one. This technique could be applied to making your next mattress mambo a dance to remember. It could be beneficial to have a bird’s eye view of things you have done with your lover that may need improvement or could help you pinpoint some skills that your mate really enjoys. Plus, nothing warms up a cold night quite like watching yourself in action. It could help to spark future encounters.
Aside from the perks to the couple, there are also plenty of benefits to the individuals involved. We live in a society that is obsessed with indulging their vain desires. Making a tape could do wonders for your self-esteem and body image issues. Perhaps you are concerned about how your stomach looks when you are naked. Having it on film could help to show you how smoking hot you really are. The visual could help release those fears. Seeing what your lover sees and how they react to you can be a great technique in getting comfortable in your own skin. Once you are confident in yourself, it will help you feel more at ease and able to enjoy future encounters.
Certainly for every pro there is a con. If your tape or photo winds up in the wrong hands, it could be so embarrassing and make you feel violated. In some cases it can ruin careers, families and your public image. Consider your job and what the ramifications would be if your tape got out to the public. While it is true that we all have sex, the slut-shaming society we live in could be very harsh for having proof on film.
Make sure your mate is mature enough to not want to show the tape off to their friends or watch it in a public place. I once sat next to a guy at the bar who was watching his own performance while he casually sipped a Budweiser. I saw more of this man and his lady friend than I ever wanted to see.
Always remember that an unlocked phone could lead to prying eyes. Imagine your curious mother gingerly scrolling through your photos of a recent vacation and stumbling across your cash and prizes scattered across your screen.
Put on a passcode!
If your ex has a picture or video saved, you could beg and plead for deletion and they could say no or lie about saying they did it. Always try to be the one in sole possession of your tape; it’s the only way you can guarantee its safety and viewership.
What about the legality? Making a sex tape could put you in jail. Filming someone without their consent constitutes stalking. It falls under the umbrella of peeping toms and an invasion of privacy and, if discovered, can have serious charges brought up against you. Always get your partner’s consent.
In the end, if you are going to make a sex tape, you have to be OK with the possibility that someone, somewhere, might see it. These are the risks we take (thank you iCloud) It could do great things for your esteem and could fire things up in your relationship. Choose wisely and may the odds be ever in your favor.
Girl Talk began in 2012 as a telltale horror story of the city’s most epic dating disasters and has evolved into a column about love, life experiences and growing up. Melissa also has a weekly Girl Talk TV segment on PA Live, WBRE, and a radio segment every Wednesday on 98.5 KRZ.