The bachelorette party is a tradition dating back to the 1960s where women decided that if men get to have their last night of pre-marital freedom, then they deserve one, too. A relationship that is headed for the alter should have a solid foundation based on mutual love, respect and trust. That is the holy trinity that makes for a lasting relationship. Sometimes when travelling in a mass group, the girls go out and let their hair down. So how do we have a successful bachelorette party without possibly ruining the upcoming marriage?
Every bachelorette party I have ever attended has had its share of penis decorations, risqué games for the bride-to-be and a lifetime of silly memories. Most of these nights are harmless and uneventful. Sure, things can get a little crazy, but in nearly every situation, the bride still shows up at the church the following weekend and they begin their happily ever after.
What makes for an eventful bachelorette party?
Have a theme. It always adds a little glitter to the night when everyone is on board with a theme. Often this includes matching outfits or even a personalized wedding hashtag made special for the new couple for posting pictures. Dress up your bride in something special. It’s her night to feel like the Beyoncé of the group and this is the last time she will be doing the single ladies dance.
Arrange for safe travel. In most bachelorette party situations, drinking will happen. Plan for a designated driver or hire a car service for your safety. It will keep the group together as you go from place to place and everyone will be able to let loose and not worry about having to drive. Some of our local car services even offer pink limos for occasions just like this!
Make a plan of attack before the big night. Map out where you will be going and let everyone know. They will need to budget out their night and it’s always good to let someone who isn’t going know where you are going to be in the event of an emergency. Remember to schedule in food stops so that everyone will have staying power for the full night. Having a plan gives you events to look forward to, especially if you choose to do something like a male revue or other show that require tickets.
When planning out your nights, be cognizant of everyone’s personal boundaries. Perhaps you have ladies attending that are not comfortable with male strippers or binge drinking. The night is supposed to be fun for everyone so planning the night out as a group will help everyone feel comfortable without having to feel like a stick in the mud when the night comes.
Don’t be afraid to push the bride out of her comfort zone a little. These are memories that she will keep and look back on all of her life. Even if she hates you for it the night of the party, she will look back and laugh at the night that you made her pin the junk on the hunk or take a body shot off a random guy because that is not usually something she would do.
Most importantly, have fun. Be creative and do your part to make the night special. This is her last night as a party of one. She is about to start a whole new chapter in her life so be sure that before she turns the page to get a whole lot of ink on it one last time.
Girl Talk began in 2012 as a telltale horror story of the city’s most epic dating disasters and has evolved into a column about love, life experiences and growing up. Melissa also has a weekly Girl Talk TV segment on PA Live, WBRE, and a radio segment every Wednesday on 98.5 KRZ.