Girl Talk: This new trending hashtag isn’t making the dating game any easier at the start of 2016
It is no secret that the dating game is rough.
In a world where feelings and emotions are cast to the side and everyone has their own guard up about some facet of their lives, being a single person on the dating scene can seem like an endless parade of bad dates and wasted time.
People have hidden agendas and the struggle to find a compatible mate is often as successful as finding a needle in a hay stack. With all these problems swirling the dating scene, why have people chosen to make it harder with #wastehistime2016?
The logic behind this, is apparently a catty ploy at getting back at men for the years of constant abuse in the world of dating. Women have had enough and are giving the men a taste of their own medicine. Each online tweet seems more devious than the last. The things people are doing to each other are just downright mean.
An example of this:
“Asked him out on a double date then showed up with me boyfriend, bae asked him where his date is. #wastehistime2016.”
“Had a guy buy me dinner and take me shopping then drop me off at my boyfriend’s house so I can model the new underwear I just got for my man. #wastehistime2016.”
I couldn’t believe what I was reading and was hoping this wasn’t true. How is it possible that this is the top trending hashtag of 2016 so far? Isn’t the dating world harsh enough without playing these games? As humans, we all want love in some form. If a guy is honestly trying to date you and this is how you treat him, what makes you think you are any better than the men of your past that you are trying to spite?
Hold up ladies. This whole trend is just such a bad idea. Two wrongs never made a right. If someone burned you, let it go. Starting a cultural revolution of vengeance is not going to make anything better.
You aren’t just wasting his time; you’re wasting your time too. How did you feel when you were hurt in the past? Why would you ever wish that on someone else? Isn’t the whole point of dating to find someone you are compatible with and to complete you and make you a better version of yourself? The vengeful you is not your best self.
Rise above the pain of your past, learn from it and turn it into something better. Guys have emotions too, if you are just dating a guy to get a clever tweet out of it (by the way, none of these tweets are clever, they just make these women look like bitches) then maybe it is time to take a step back and just not date people until you have your priorities in line.
Love is a battlefield, but if we just put down our guns and give peace a chance, maybe one of the next trending hashtag will be: #alltimematters #letlovegrow #mybestself
Melissa Hughes is a 30-year-old single mother of one. Girl Talk started as a telltale horror story of the city’s most epic dating disasters and evolved into a column about love, life experiences and growing up. Melissa has a weekly TV segment on PA Live, WBRE, discussing activities in Weekender and a Girl Talk radio segment every Wednesday on 98.5 KRZ.