Girl Talk: Oct. 3 was mean girl day, but does it really need a celebration?
This past weekend, on Oct. 3, the world (or at least me and the ABC Family Channel) celebrated Mean Girls Day. This movie has been quoted to death, yet we still keep reviving it because it is still socially relevant to today’s society.
The modern day mean girl has evolved from her Regina George predecessor. Instead of a burn book, we have Peeple, an app that was created specifically to rate people on a scale of negative and positive features. If Gretchen Wieners had an Instagram, would you follow her? If you sent a Snap chat story to Cady Heron and it was ignored, would it ruin your day?
The modern day mean girl is a complex person who always seems to play a part in our lives regardless of what age we are. She may be “so fetch,” but she has the power to make your life hell if you aren’t in her good graces. From the time we are children, girls tend to tear down, tease, judge and have frenemies. Kids have no filter, they say whatever is on their mind regardless of how much it hurts the person they are saying it to. The mean girl never develops this filter, or maybe she does and still chooses to ignore it. I always secretly thought this was where they got their “power” from. Their no nonsense, unfiltered attitude makes them seem so threatening.
So how do you take away their power? Stop caring. I know, it’s easier said than done and if you ever figure out the trick to not let people’s negative opinions bother you, please share your secret with me.
We have the ability to survive a mean girl attack. You just need to believe in yourself.
If you are 16 and a girl is spreading rumors that you are the high school human mattress, just remind yourself that you don’t have to prove to anyone whether or not a stupid, sexist label fits you (because of course it doesn’t.) You are bigger than the rumor and you aren’t alone. The rumors will die down, you will get through it. Just remind yourself that high school ends. You’re going to go on to have a wonderful life surrounded by people who like you and care about you for who you are.
You can laugh at the fact that some of these girl will peak in high school and you can laugh at what becomes of them on Facebook in about five years.
Finally, if you are 30 and you feel intimidated by the confident, “perfect” girls around you, look at all you have already accomplished in your life. You have survived heartbreak, failure and hardship that has come your way. You have grown into a strong and resilient person and when you are busy examining their highlight reel, you have no clue what is happening behind the scenes.
You go Glen Coco, you have the power to survive the mean girl.
Melissa Hughes is a 30-year-old single mother of one. Girl Talk started as a telltale horror story of the city’s most epic dating disasters and evolved into a column about love, life experiences and growing up. Melissa has a weekly TV segment on PA Live, WBRE, discussing activities in Weekender and a Girl Talk radio segment every Wednesday on 98.5 KRZ.