By Melissa Hughes - For Weekender

Let’s get real: No ring at 30

Print This Page

By Melissa Hughes

For Weekender

Dear Melissa,

I am 29 and I live with my boyfriend. We have been together for three years and I really want us to make some progression in our relationship. I feel that we are at a point in our lives where we should be looking to get engaged. I am feeling a lot of pressures from my family because I am turning 30 and am the last out of all of my siblings to marry, buy a house or have a kid. We are very much in love and constantly tell each other that there will never be anyone else. I am very old fashioned so I would never consider proposing to him, but when I bring it up to him he says he is waiting for the time to be right. We both have good jobs and steady reliable income so I don’t know when he would consider a right time. I don’t want to be the old bride, but I am afraid if he won’t ever commit that I am wasting my best years just waiting. What do I do?


Dear Ringless,

Turning 30 is a scary age for a lot of people, me included. I thought that being 30 and not married or a homeowner yet meant that I never would be (for the record, I am almost 31 now and still have no ring or house keys) you can’t rush the process. I am sure by now your guy knows how important it is to you, but things like this need to happen in their own time. If you truly think he is afraid of the commitment, then you need to sit down with him and have a serious talk. If he can give you a straight answer on how he feels it may give you some clarity. Just ask him what his long term intentions are and let him know that he needs to decide if his goals are the same as your and go from there. Good luck.



Have a question or need some advice from Melissa? Email here at [email protected] - Melissa has a weekly TV segment on PA Live, WBRE, discussing activities in Weekender and a Girl Talk radio segment every Wednesday on 98.5 KRZ.